A Message for Parents
You may notice, and perhaps dismiss some of the things in the below list. While no one item signals drug use, all are signs to look for. If several have happened in your family, there may be a greater cause for concern.
Increase in need for money
Increased secrecy
Loss of personal property (items sold for cash)
New friendships that don't fit the norm
Change in eating or sleeping habits
Change in behavior, i.e.; violence, lying, betrayal of trust, apathy
Sudden loss (or gain) of weight without cause
Increase in illness/injury
Change in school behavior/grades
Original or homemade pipes of any kind (pipes may be made of metal, wood or household items of any kind).
Plastic baggies of any size/type
Extra, unexplained cash
Valuable items described as belonging to a "friend"
Matches and lighters
The best defense is a good offense. Stay in touch with your child's friends. Invite them to your house and observe their behavior. Are they comfortable around adults? Are they unusually secretive?
Take time to listen (really listen) to your kid's music. Ask questions of your kids or check for a description of the type of message a particular group gives. You can check the words at the following web site: http://www.lyrics.ch
Every child is different and most will naturally have a few of the above traits at times without drug use. If you have questions or concerns, talk to your kids. If you are met with rebellion, keep trying with a nurturing attitude. Getting defensive doesn't work. This "team building" mode can take time. Explain that you just want to get to know them better. Most will eventually come around. Starting when your kids are young will help a lot.
Keep the line of communication open. Let them know that it's OK to have an opinion. Tell them that you will try to respect theirs, within your established house rules.
Whatever the situation, most kids go through tough times and weather them with help and love. "Tough Love" is the process of sticking to your beliefs and morals without compromise. Even if it means harsh consequences for your child's actions. Constantly bailing kids out of situations with money, influence or compromise has led many frustrated parents down a dark path. Kids become lost and confused the first time "mommy and daddy" are not there to patch up a problem they are faced with. Effective consequences lead to positive change!